I find it exciting when someone knows exactly what to say at the right moment... Intense looks, playful teasing, gentle but firm commands. I love it when they take control... but be warned, sometimes I'm the one in charge.
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I don't like disrespect, unnecessary rudeness, or negative vibes. Things that bother me include rushing, people who can't appreciate the moment, and those who forget that there's a real person behind the screen.